Adaab E ­Mubashrat

 

Mazameen
1. Mubashrat ki fazilat
2. Mubashrat ka Tariqa
3. Shab­e­Zufaaf
4. Chand Zaruri Batain
5. Mubashrat ke Dauran Na karne wale kaam
6. Mubashrat ke Aukat (Waqt)

 

Allaah ke Naam se Shuru Jo Bohuth Mehrbaan, Rahmat wala hai!
Beshumar Darood­o­Salam hoo Rasool­e­Azam (Swallallaahu alaihi wa sallam) per.

Mubashrat Ki Fazilat

1) Mubashrat [Sohbat ya Jimaa] karna sunnath aur kaar­e­sawaab
hai.
Quraan​me Rab azzawajal farmata hai : “Toh Ab unse sohbat karo aur
talab karo jo Allah ne tumhare nasib me likha ho.”
Aur Hadees​me aya hai ke “Tum mein se apne biwi ke sath Mubashrat
karna bhi sadaqa hai”.
Imaam Gazali (Radiallaha ta’ala anhu) farmate​hain ke “Jab
kabhi Mubashrat kare toh niyat sirf maza lene ya shewat ki aag
bujhane ki na ho, balke niyat ye rakhe ki zina se bachega aur aulaade
swaleh wa nek sirat paida hogi, agar us niyat se Mubbasharat karega
to sawaab payega.”

NOTE​: Inzaal:­ Mard ki mani uske aale se nikal kar, Aurat ki farj mein dakhil ho.

Mubashrat ka Tariqa

1) Mubashrat se pehle wuzu kare, uske bahut se faide hain aur Mubashrat se
pehle Khushboo lagana sunnat hai, khushboo Jim’aa aur asbabe Jim’aa me
madadgaar hai.
2) Mard ko chahiye ke apne biwi per jaanwar ki tarha na kare, Sohbat se
pehle Qasid hote hai, Sahaba­e­kiram ne arz kiya Ya Rasoolullah
(Swallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) wo Qasid kya hain, to pyare Aaqa (Sallallahu
Alaihi Wa Sallam) ne irshad farmaya wo bosa ,kinaar aur Mubashrat aamez
guftugu wagairah hai.
3) Ummul Momineen Hazrate Ayesha Siddiqa (Radiallaha ta’al anha) se
marvi hai ke Rasoolullah (Swallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) ne farmaya jo Mard
apne biwi ka hath usko behlane ke liye pakadtha hai Allah azzawajal uske
liye ek neki likh detha hai, jab Mard Mubashrat se apne Aurath ke gale me
hath daltha hai uske haq me “10” nekiyan likhi jaathi hai aur jab Aurath se
Jimaa karta hai toh duniyan aur jo kuch usme hai un sab se behtar hai.
4) Sohbat se pehle khud bechain na hojaye, apne aap per pura itmenaan
rakhe, jaldbazi nakare, pehle biwi se pyar bhari guftugu kare phir bosa wa
kinaar ke zariye use Mubashrat ke liye amaadah kare uss dauraan dil hi dil
me ye dua padhe, “ Bismillaahil Aliul Azeemi Allahu Akbar Allahu
Akbar ”​uske baad jab Mard, Aurath, Sohbath ka irada karle toh barhana
hone se pehle ek martaba Sura­E­Ikhlaas padhle (Qul hu wallahu
ahad)​, Sura­E­Ikhlaas padhne ke baad ye dua padhe, “ Bismillaahi
Allahumma Jannib nashaitaana Wa Janni Bishaitaana Maa
Razakhtanaa. ”
Agar koyi shaks Sohbat ke waqt dua na padhe (yani shaitan se Allah ki pana
na mange) toh uss shaks ki Sharamgah se shaitaan lipat jatha hai, uss
Mard ke sath shaitaan bhi uski biwi se Sohbat karne lagtha hai aur uss Jimaa
se jo aulaad paida hothi hai wo Nafarmaan, Buri khaslathwaali, Begairath,
Bad­deen wa Gumrah hothi hai, shaitaan ki iss dakhal andaazi ke sabab
aulaad me tabhakari aajathi hai. Lihaza us musibath se bachne ke liye jab
bhi Sohbat kare tho yaad karke dua padhle ya kam­az­kamAauzubillah aur
Bismillaah Sharif zaroor padhle.
5) Sohbat sirf Aurath ki “faraaj” me hi honi chahiye, chahe aage se kare ya
piche se, daaye karwat se ho ya baaye karwat se.
6) Mubashrat ka sahi tarikha ye hai ke bistar per lete lete ho aur Aurath
niche ki janib ho aur Mard upar ki janib ho, is tarikhe se Mard ke jism se
Aurath ka jism dhak jayega. Dekhajaye toh iss tarikhe me rahath wa asani
hai, aurat ko isse mushaqath nahi hothi aur Mard ki mani ka asani se kharij
hokar Aurath ke faraaj me dakhil hoti hai aur isteqaraar hamal jald paata
hai. Agar Aurath upar Mard niche ho toh, iss surath me Mard ki kuch mani
uske aazu me bakhi rehekar fatun paida karegi aur phir baad me taklif wa
iziyath ka bayiz banegi.
7) Jiswaqt Inzaal ho, uswaqt dil hi dil me ye dua padhe.“Allahumma Laa
Tajala Lishaitaana Feemaa Razakhtani Naseeba. ” ​Inzaal hone ke baad
Aurath se fauran juda na ho yahan tak ke Aurath ki bhi hajath puri ho.
Chunanche Mard ko Inzaal ho bhi jaye toh fauran Aurath se alag na ho jaye
balke isi tarha kuch der aur ruke rahe taake Aurath ke bhi talab puri hojaye
kyoun ke Aurath ko der me Inzaal hota hai.
8) Mubashrat ke dauran Mard aur Aurath koyi chadar wagaira odhle,
jaanwaron ki tarha barhana Sohbat na kare. Nabe­E­Karim (Swallallahu
Alaihi Wa Sallam) irshad farmate hai “Jab tumme se koyi apni biwi se Jimaa
kare tho parda karle, beparda hoga toh Farishte haya ki wajha se bahar
nikal jayenge. Aur Shaitaan aajayega, aub koyi bachcha ho tho shaitaan ki
shirkath hogi. Aala Hazrath (Alairehma) farmate​hai ke “ Barhana
rehkar Sohbath karne se aulaad ka besharm wa behaya hone ka khatra hai.

9) Miya Biwi ka Sohbat ke waqt ek dusre ki sharmgah ko mass karna jayiz
hai balke nek niyath se ho toh mustahab wa sawab hai magar bagair zarurat
ke sharmgah ko dekhna aur chuna khilafe ula aur makru hai. Dourane
Sohbat Mard aur Aurath ek dusre ki sharmgah ki taraf nahi dekhna chahiye
iske bahut se nuqsanat hai, Ankhon ki Binayi(Roshni) khatam hojathi hai.
10) Mubashrat ke waqt aurath ke pistaan(Breasts) chumna ya chusne me
koyi haraj nahi lekin khayal rakhe ke doodh halaq me najaye, agar halaq me
doodh ajaye toh fauran thook de, jaanbuj kar doodh pina Najayiz wa
Haraam hai, agar doodh halaq se utar gaya ho toh Nikha na tutega.
11) Sohbath ke baad Mard aur Aurath alag hojaye phir kisi saaf kapde se
pehle dono apne apne maqaame makhsoos ko saaf kare taake bistar per
gandagi na lagne paye. Safayi ke baad peshab kare, uske bahut se faide
hai, peshab karle ne ke baad sharmgah aur uske athraaf ke hisse ko achchi
tarha se dhole usse badan tandarust rehetha hai aur khujli ki bimari se
bachawo ho jatha hai.
12) Lekin yaad rakhe ke Mubashrat ke fauran baad thanda paani se na
dhoye ke isse bimaar hone ka khatra hota hai, isliye ke Sohbat ke baad jism
ka temperature badh jatha hai aur jism me garmi ajathi hai, agar garam
jism par thanda paani dala jayega toh bukhar jald hone ka khatra hai. Lihaza
Sohbat karne ke baad takriban 5 ya 10 minute baitjaye ya letjaye take
badan ki hararath Etedaal (Normal) par ajaye phir uske baad paani ka
istemaal kare, agar jaldi hai toh halka sa garam pani se dhone me koyi
nuqsan nahi.
13) Mubashrat ke baad usi rath me dusri martaba Sohabat ka irada ho toh
Mard aur Aurath dono Wazu karle ye faidamand hai aur agar Sohbat na bhi
karna hai toh Wazu karke sojaye.
Shab­e­Zufaaf (Suhag Rath)
1) Jab dhulha aur dhulhan kamre me jaye aur tanhayi hoto behtar ye hai ke
sab se pehle dhulha aur dhulhan 2 rakat namaz nafil shukrana padle agar
dulhan haiz ki halath me hoto namaz na pade lekin dulha zaroor padhe.
2) Namaz ke baad istarha dua kare “ Aye Allaah tera shukr­o­ Ahsan hai ke
thune hame ye din diyaa aur hame is khushi wa niyamath se nawaza aur
hame apne pyare Habeeb (swallallaahu alaihi wa sallam) ki iss sunnath par
amal karne ki toufiq ata farmayi, aye Allaah hamari is khushi ko hamesh
isitarha qayim rakh, hame meel milap, pyar ­ muhabbath ke saath itfaaq wa
ittehaad ki zindagi guzarne ki toufiq ata farma, aye Allaa hame nek, saleha
aur farmabardar aulad ata farma aye Allaah mujhe isse aur usko mujse raazi
ata farma aur humpar apni rehmatain hamesh khayam rakh aur iman ke
sath salamath rakh (Ameen).
3) Namaz aur dua padhlene ke baad dulhan aur dulha sukoon wa itminaan
se bait jaye phir uske baad dulha apni dulhan ki peshani ke thode se baal
apne seedhe (right) haath me narmi ke saath muhabbath bhare andaz me
pakdhe aur ye dua pade “Allaahumma inni as aluka min khairi maa
jabal tahaa alaihi wa awuzu bika min sharri haawa sharri maa jabal
tahaa alaihi​”
Tarjuma​: Aye Allaah main tujse uski ( biwi) ki bhalayi aur khair­o­barkath
mangtha houn aur uski fitrathi adatain ki bhalayi aur teri panah chahata hoo
uski burayi aur fitrathi adatain ki burayi se
4) Dua ki fazilath: shabbe zufaaf ke roz uss dua ke padhne ki fazilat me
ulamaye ikram irshad farmatain hai Allaah azzawajal uske padhne ki barkat
se miya biwi ke darmiyan ittehad wa ittefaaq aur muhabbat qayim rakhega
aur aurath me agar koyi burayi ho toh use dur farmayega uske zariye neki
pheleyega aur aurath hamesh shohar ki khidmathguzar wafadar aur
farmabardar rahegi.
Chand Zaruri Batain
1) Sohbat hamesha tanhayi me kare aur aisi jagah kare jahan kisi ke
achanak aneka khatra na ho, us waqt kamre me andhera karlo, roshni me
hargiz na kare.
2) Biwi ka hath pakadkar, makan ke ander legaya aur darwaza band karliya
aur logon ko malum hogaya ke Mubashrat karne ke liye aisa kiya hai toh
Makruh hai.
3) Jahan per Quraan Sharif ki koyi kisi cheezoun per likhi huwi ho, agarche
upar shisha ho, jab tak usper kapde ka gilaaf na daal le, waha Sohbat karna
ya barhana hona be­adabi hai.
4) Jo bachcha samajtha ho aur dusron ke samne bayan karsaktha hai, uske
samne Sohbath karna Makru­e­tehrimi hai.
5) Kisi ki 2 Biwiyan ho toh ek biwi se dusre biwi ke samne Sohbath karna
Jayiz nahi.
6) Nashe ki halath me Mubashrat na kare, warna “Rheumatic Pain” naami
bimari paida ho jathi hai aur aulaad apaahich (Langdi, Lulli) paida ho jathi
hai.
7) Sohbath ke waqt Qible ke taraf muh ya peet karna Makru wa khilaafe
aadab hai.
8) Iss baath ka hamesha khayal rakhe ke jab bhi Mubashrat ka iraada ho
toh ye malum karle ke kahi Aurath Haiz se toh nahi hai, Aurath se saaf saaf
puchle, Aurath ki bhi zimmedari hai ke wo agar haayiza ho tho be­jhijak
apne Shohar ko isse agha kar de. Agar Aurath halate haiz me ho toh hargiz
hargiz Mubashrat na kare, un ayyam me Mubashrat karna bahuth bada
gunah hai.
9) Aurath agar kisi pareshani ya bemari me mubtila ho tho uski sehat ka
khayal kiye bagair hergiz Mubashrat na kare.
​Mubashrat ke Dauran ye Na kare
1) Sohbath khade khade na kare ye jaanwaron ka tarikha hai aur baite baite
bhi na kare ye Mard aur Aurath dono ko nuqsan de hai.
2) Sohbath ke dauran guftugu na kare, khamosh rahe, Aala Hazrath
(Alairehma) farmate hai ke “ Jimaa ke dauran bath cheeth karna Makru hai,
bachche gunge ya tutile hone ka khatra hai.
3) Sohbath ke dauran Mard kisi dusri Aurath ka aur Aurath kisi dusre Mard
ka khayal na laye, iss tarha lana gunah aur chote kism ka zina hai.
4) Sohbath ke baad fauran paani na piye kyoun ke isse saans ki bimari hone
ka khatra hai.
5) Sohbat ke batein doston se na kahe, usse napasand farmaya gaya hai.
Sarkare Madina (Swallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) farmate hai, “ Jis kisi ne
Sohbath ki batein logon me bayan ki uski misaal aisi hai jaise shaitaan Mard
aur shaitaan Aurath se mile, aur logon ke samne hi khule aam Sohbat karne
lage.”

Mubashrat ke Aukat (Waqt)

1) Shariate islamiyan me Mubashrat ke liye koyi khas waqt nahi bataya
gaya hai, Namaz ke auqaat ke ilaawa din aur raat ke har hisse me Sohbat
kar sakte hain.
2) Sohbath ke liye sab se behtar waqt rath ka akhri hissa hai kyoun ke rath
ke pehle hisse me pet giza (khane ) se bhara hotha hai, aur bhara pet
Mubashrat karne se sehath ko nuqsande hai.
Bhare Pet sohbat karne ke nuqsanath
a) Inzaal jald hota hai.
b) Meda kamzor hotha hai.
c) Hazme ki quwwat kamzor hoti hai.
d) Jigar per waram aa jaata hai.
e) Sugar ki bimari ho jati hai.
f) Aulaad kund zehen paida hoti hai.
3) Raat ke pehle hisse me Sohbat karna Makruh hai, ke Sohbath ke baad
poori raath napaaki ke halath me sona padhega.
4) Baaz ulama ne Shab­e­Juma (Jumerat ki raat) aur Juma ka din
Mubashrat karna mustahab kaha hai.
5) Azaan aur Namaaz ke waqt Mubashrat na kare, uss se aulaad
Nafarmaan, Mazhoo se begana paida hothi hai.
6) Har mahine ki chand raath, chand ki 15vi shab aur chand ki mahine ki
akhri shab Mubashrat karna Makruh hai. Unn raton me Jim’aa ke waqt
shaitaan maujood hotha hai.
Reference: Kareena­e­Zindagi.

 

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